CONFUSED! help please?

Why not simply tell him how your feel and also let him know that you will give him all the space he needs. Meantime, protect your heart and start getting invovled in something to take you mid off of him. He sounds very confused and you would have to wonder what else is going on that you do not know. The entire off - on thing is extremely strange. Either he is into you 100% or not at all. DO NOT settle for less b/c you will suffer the pain later.